Tyler Oliver Grimes, infant son of Brandon Scott Grimes and Alexa Dawn Garner Grimes, was born into Heaven, November 3, 2021, at Southeast Health in Cape Girardeau.
Surviving in addition to his parents are his paternal family, grandmother, Stephanie Grimes, grandparents, Christopher and Jennifer Peddycoart; great grandparents, Mike and Kay Grimes and James and Gail Peddycoart; uncle, Logan Miller and other family members.
Surviving in addition to his parents are his maternal family: grandparents, Steve and Stephanie Plunk and John and Carolyn Garner; great grandparents, Judy Garner and Irma Townsend; aunts, Allyson Garner, Helen Mahany, Sarah Robinson and Mariah Word; uncles, Stephen Plunk, Jacob Plunk, Connor Smotherman and Josh Robinson; as well as many cousins and other family members.
Greeting Ty in Heaven were his paternal great grandparents, Orman and Pearl Grimes and Don and Nita Hargrave and his maternal great grandparents, Jackie "Ma Jack" Vaughn, Gary Vaughn, Nola "Memmie" Edwards, John W. Garner and Jerry Townsend.
Ty Oliver's father and mother have chosen to honor his life privately.
Online condolences may be shared with the family at
www.mcmiklefuneralhome.com
McMikle Funeral Home of Charleston is in charge of arrangements.
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Our Precious Ty
Two blue lines, one crossed over the other.
Flipped our whole world right side up, made us a father and a mother.
We truly couldn't believe the blessing we had been given.
The opportunity for us to be parents had always seemed hidden.
We thanked our Lord and savior for the miracle of you.
We were scared but knew exactly what we had to do.
From that moment on, the people we were, were no more.
The life that we knew, happily went out of the door.
Each day, you grew.
Our minds and our hearts grew along with you.
Every second we spent thinking of you, who you would be.
What we could to help you live, prosper and see.
The day we heard your heartbeat, it all became real.
We were really parents, and that's all we could feel.
The gift of this child in my womb,
was something we had never assumed…
we could have.
But there we were, together, a mom and a Dad.
The doctor told us your heartbeat was strong.
That in no way shape or form was there anything wrong.
We had names picked out for a little boy and a little girl.
In our minds, no matter what, you were going to take us for a whirl.
It was time to reveal, mermaid or pirate, what will baby be?
Memmie was the only one who knew, the keeper of the tea.
That day our lives changed again, with one simple color.
Blue. Our little boy was going to be like no other.
That day we named you, we thought and thought for hours.
The perfect name, one that was ours.
Ty Oliver Grimes.
A name that would last through the times.
Weeks passed and my tummy kept growing.
Nurturing you, my precious boy, and you finally started showing.
Daddy read to you and always kissed you goodnight.
Mommy talked to you every moment and made sure you knew you were her bestfriend.
You kicked and squirmed and made sure we knew that you loved us even more, till the end.
Everything stopped, the day we saw red.
On our knees we prayed, and to the Emergency room we sped.
We heard your heartbeat on the ultrasound,
we were confused as to why it had come so far down?
They wanted us to be under surveillance, you and I.
The doctor decided to check on you, just one more time.
One doctor came, then 2. Another nurse and then more.
Searching for something.
Searching for you.
3 simple words.
And that was the end of the world I knew.
"There's no heartbeat."
No movement on the screen.
Our little boy, our baby bean.
I could hear nothing but my husband's screams.
The world stopped, everything went black.
A nightmare coming true, We'd never have our baby back.
The doctors apologized, and gave us time alone.
How could we ever get through this? How could we ever go home?
Home to an empty room, that was supposed to be yours.
Home to clothes that would never be worn.
Everything in our lives, everything we had hoped for, was leaning on you being born.
The doctors told me to prepare for what lie ahead.
To be honest, I didn't even want to lift my body from the bed.
Hours of labor, and finally my water broke.
It was time to finally see our baby, even though his eyes would be closed.
Our child was born, November 3rd, 7:09pm, without a sound.
No cries, no laughter, no heartbeat to be found.
Beautiful baby boy, you were everything we needed and more.
11inches long and weighing 15.4oz.
To live a life with you, that was all we ever hoped for.
As we held the lifeless body of our son,
our world stopped when it should have only just begun.
We kissed him and sang and read to him, we told him about how much daddy and mommy loved each other.
We promised our Ty, one day, we would give him a sister or brother.
Spending every moment we could with him, it was time to say goodbye.
A world without you, a life without you, we would forever question and ask why?
Why us? Why couldn't you have made it?
All we ever wanted was to be your parents.
There is nothing but a void left in my heart.
You came into our lives and tore everything apart.
But somehow, put it all back together within a short time.
The lives you changed, without even blinking one time.
Ty Oliver, the most handsome boy, soft little hands and the biggest feet.
I wonder of your future and us getting to meet.
Who would you have been? Would you have loved me as much as I love you?
I wanted to teach you how to be a good person, to be kind and loving, to cook and tie your shoes.
I wanted to see you play baseball & maybe soccer too, I wanted you to be momma's boy even when you got old enough to try and refuse.
I wanted to watch you grow, from a tiny baby to a grown man.
But, now, I am left with nothing but molds of your hands.
The emptiness is so dark, the silence is deafening.
I can't believe this is our life, I can't process what is happening.
How are we supposed to go on with our hearts missing?
I look to heaven and I know you are there, watching and listening.
I hope you can hear how much we love you.
How much we miss you.
A life without Ty Oliver, what a dull one, it seems.
From heaven pearly gates, my beautiful angel boy gleams.
Gray is all I see, numbness is all I feel.
I hope and pray one day, to fully heal.
However that doesn't seem possible when you Youre not here.
When you have a bad dream, you just wake yourself up.
But what if the bad dream is your life and you're completely stuck?
Tears fall each day and they will fall more as the years pass.
Ty Oliver, why did you have to leave us so fast?
My heart is in shambles, my brain is fried.
I would've given anything to save you, to have you by my side.
This pain is indescribable but we will live on.
I'd do it all over again to know the love of a son.
Being a mother is all I've ever dreamed.
My baby boy just has wings.
